Think of the area you are most discontented with in your work or life. On a scale of 1 to 10, how discontent are you with that area? How long have you been discontent with it? What have you done about it? In this blog post, I share 7 signs that indicate that you may be afraid of growth in that area.
1. Silence If you don't talk about the area of your discontent, it may be because by voicing it, you feel you may be forced to do something about it. You fear what that could require of you, so you stay silent and maintain the status quo. 2. Complaining Complaining but not doing anything about it can also be a sign that you are afraid of growth in the area of your discontent. By expending energy around it, you relieve temporary frustration, but if you don't walk the talk by taking action to change things, all you do is blow off steam, but discontent is still festering underneath. 3. Avoidance Like keeping silent, if you avoid people, conversations, or situations that force you to confront the area of your discontent, it may be a sign that you are afraid to grow. Even though you are discontent, your fear of the unknown path you may need to take to growth is worse than the familiar environment of your discontent.
“You will be the same person in five years as you are today except for the books you read and the people you meet.” -Charlie "Tremendous" Jones.
4. Associations If you associate with people that make you feel good, keep you distracted, praise you for what's going well, without confronting you and challenging you to address what is not, you may be playing small so that you don't have to grow. 5. Skipping If you skip from relationship to relationship, job to job, business to business, place to place, and never settle down, it may be a sign that you are afraid of growth, because growth requires that you stay still long enough to face and deal with both what is working and what is not. 6. Quitting If you have the tendency to talk yourself out of pursuing opportunities, or start and then find "reasons" to stop before you see results, you may be afraid of growth and therefore choose to remain stagnant, even though you are discontented. 7. Blaming If you find that you blame everyone and everything for where you are in work or life and have been doing so for years, you are definitely afraid to grow. You have convinced yourself that where you are is the only place you can be, instead of having the courage to believe that no matter what has happened in the past, you are in charge of your future and it is what you do today that will deliver that future to you.
“Learn from the past, set vivid, detailed goals for the future, and live in the only moment of time over which you have any control: now.”
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